Hello!
The electronegativity values are not added together to create a total value
they are intrisic values of the element itself.
When we talk about the hydrogen atoms of NH3, and refer to the electronegativity
we talk about each individual hydrogen atom as a single entity, not as a lump sum of 6.3
And because there is a large difference between nitrogen and hydrogen,
there is unequal sharing of the electrons, resulting in polarity formed on one side of the molecule.
think about how we talk about CH4. I am not adding 4 hydrogen atoms worth of electronegativity.
I'm comparing electronegativity values of 1 hydrogen compared to 1 carbon atom,
and stating the reason why it is considered non-polar.